We;ve been together a year and a half. We;ve been living together almost a year now. We are very much intermingled financially and personally by this point, and I;m concerned that I might have gotten myself involved with someone who isn;t good for me. He just got a new job 2,000 miles from where we lived when we met, and I moved with him across the country to be with him. In doing so, I gave up any prospect for working, as I work in a profession where it is very difficult to get licensed; I was licensed in the state we lived in, but it will take 6 months or more for me to get licensed in the state we moved to. It;s really complicated to explain, but I also became dependent on him for health insurance, which wouldn;t have been the case if I hadn;t moved with him. For the most part, he is very loving and supportive. He pays most of the bills while I study to take a licensing exam so I can eventually start working. He is supportive of my professional plans, and wants me to be happy in my career. He was very loving and supportive recently when my dad died, and seems to be a bit emotionally dependent on me, but not in a way that seems unhealthy to me. He said a few things to me early on in our relationship that stunned me, but seemed out of the ordinary, so I ignored them. Now they;ve gotten SO FREQUENT that I feel I can;t ignore it anymore. I think he is controlling, for one thing, and he also is very critical of the way I do things. He also has started scolding me for things – I don;t know how else to describe it.So for instance, I told him a couple of weeks ago that my licensing exam, which will last three days, is 30 miles from our house, and I was thinking about getting a hotel room a couple of nights bcs I don;t want to spend valuable time stuck in traffic and potentially be late for my test. His response was, "No, you;re not doing that." As though I had asked him for permission. Last weekend we went camping, and I was making dinner, and I put water in the camping pan and he kept saying, "You put too much water in it! What is your plan?? Tell me your plan! You can;t just dump this water out here!" I had also seen that we had forgotten a little part of the coffee press, and I wanted coffee, so I decided I would just make it without the little piece, and he shoved the whole thing at me and said, "I;m not doing it then, if you think you can make it work, you can do it." A couple of weeks ago, he was reviewing the bills, and there were a couple of MY bills on the list that I hadn;t paid yet (this had nothing do to do with him at all, so I never knew why he was so upset) and he screamed at me, "I;ve been waiting two weeks for you to take care of this!!! Tell me when you;re going to get this done!!!" A couple of the classic things he;s said to me, which still haunt me, are when he told me once, when we were out riding bikes, "If you get off your bike one more time, we;re going home!!" And one of the things he said early in our relationship, which should have given me a clue, was when we got home late after seeing a show and I wanted a drink, and he said, "no, it;s too late. You can;t have a drink." He also very frequently criticizes the way I do things, always, "that;s not how you do it," or "what are you doing??!!" And he second guesses every frickin decision I make, like I reserved a zipcar for 2.5 hours when we needed to go shopping far away, and he said, "really? You think we need it for 2.5 hours?" Then when we went shopping, every single thing I picked up to put in the cart he had some kind of criticism of: Why do we need 6 cans of tomatoes? Did you look to see if that has salt in it? I;m not going to be eating that salsa, so I don;t know why we;re buying that brand,etc. etc. until I just broke down crying and had to leave the store. I am starting to feel like every decision I make, even the little tiny ones, I worry he;s going to criticize me. I also sometimes forget that I;m an adult and able to make decisions for myself, like whether I want a drink, and I give in to him without even thinking about it anymore. I tried recently to tell him how I feel, and we ended up in a huge argument. The topic got brought up again tonight, and and he was angry and defensive, so I felt like I couldn;t talk about it. So I don;t know. I guess I;m wondering, based on what I;ve said, does it seem like he;s doing anything wrong? I don;t know if it makes a difference, but I am 44 years old, and he is about to turn 30. It makes it seem even weirder and wrong when I think about our ages – I should be able to calculate, by now, how long I will need a car for, or whether I can walk my bike up a steep hill, without someone second guessing me or yelling at me. I also wonder, if there is

Hi this is a repost because I don;t think I put it in the right category. I am wanting to quit smoking,cold turkey did not work so my doctor said he would callIn chantix and it would be there when I was ready well I found out it costs next to nothing with my insurance. My issue is I have always had depression an it has been pretty bad the last month And I was already thinking about getting bam on Zoloft then I find out I have a small health issue and would benefit greatly from quitting. That being said I have heard chantix causes major depression so I was thinking about starting the Zoloft waiting 2-3 weeks which is what it usually takes to kick in then starting the chantix but does anyone know if you can take both at the same time? Thanks!

Ok so my mom has had a history with depression but know things are worse. she was married to my dad for 19 years and he was a on and off alcoholic. two years ago my dad got laid off and started drinking again. my mom got laid off to but was able to get a job pretty quick. she divorced my dad and we moved into a town house. then she got laid off again but thank the lord she was able to get another job and she still has that job today. but when my dads unemployment ran out he stopped giving my mom child support. she didn;t have any money and she was really stressed out and she attempted suicide. she spent a week in the hospital and when she came back she said she realized that her issues weren;t that great and she regretted upsetting us. i got over it quick and so did my two brothers. we ended up moving again into a cheaper town house and we stayed there for about 8 months. but then once again my dad wasn;t maying child support and we were really low on money. my mom started to get depressed again and then christmas came around. she didn;t have money to buy the three of us presents and was really upset about it. we didn;t care becasuse we understood the situation and we;re not materialistake. my dad came over drunk and they got in a huge fight. after my mom kicke dhim out she lost it. my mom has a really bad tempor and its like she can;t control herself. she said she was going to take all of her pills and drink it down with alcohol so i grabbed it hid in my room. my brother who is a little younger than me he was 15, was crying and my little brother who was 12 was also crying. i had to fight my mom off from taking the pills. finally she took them but only took one and after a while she calmed down. i think they were her depression pills. after that she acted like it never happened but this time around i became very worried for her, but i eventually let it slide. so we ended up moving again to a cheaper house but not only two weeks of living there my mom said she couldn;t afford the place becasue my dad hasn;t given her money for almost two years. so wat happened after that was my two brothers were forced to live with my dad who moved up into his dads house with his drunkin ugly girlfriend who is also an alcoholic. we were forced to give away our dog and my two cats who i loved very much and is till cry over it. me and my mom moved into my grandmas house so she can save money. i graduated high school and i was forced to take the first year off because i had no transportation for community college, and my act was too low. so i retook my act and now i will be attending a university in wisconsin int he fall of 2012. but my mom has to sleep in this tiny room, she gave mw the better room even tho i wanted her to have it. she has been very depressed ever since she was forced to give my brothers away to my alcoholc father, i hate him because i consider all of this to be his fault.when christmas came around she couldnt buy us presents again and my brothers were at my dads on christmas day. that night when i was working, my mom was saying she was done with everything when she dropped me off. i called her back and she said she was going to sit on the trian tracks. i was never so scared in my whole life. i was begging her and crying in front of all my co workers. i finally convinced her to come pick me up. its been five months since that and i cant sleep at night. my ocd has gotten worse, and i am just terrified. my brother is living with my uncle and aunt becasue he cant stand my dad and my little brother is their all alone. were planning on getitng an apartment next month but my mom is depressed even more now. when i go to school shes going to get my little brother back. but almost everyday she goes and lays in her room at lik 7 pm and i can;t seem to help her. mothers day is this weekend and im terrified of holidays becasue thats what triggers her episodes. we dont have health insurance so she can;t get her meds. im terrified and i dont know what to do. im begging my dad to let the boys come here for mothers day but he doesn;t hav the monet for gas. im going crazy with worry and i hav no one to talk to. im also afraid to go to college and leave her alone. im constanly checking to make sure her car is here at night, and im always checking to see if pills are missing or if shes in her room sleeping or crying. im having panic attacks and if i lose her, i won;t be able to handle it. ive been through a lot these past couple years but if something happenes to her thats going to be my breaking point. im hoping that after we have our own place and my little brother is back that she;ll be better. but right now, im sooooo scared. please someone tell me what to do, i;ll do whatever it takes

in october of 2011 she was told that she had stage 3 breast cancer.. she was in prison at the time didn;t get the proper treatment she needed. she is now on parole we just got her in to see a doctor through social security to try get her benefits as well as insurance.. the doctor that seen her today told her that her cancer is terminal has been since october of 2011 she was given 6 months to live from that date.. here it is 8 months later she;s still here. the doctor told her she could die at any given time to live her life the way she wants it. the cancer has spread toher stomach the social security doctor said she would most likely get denied social security for her health issues… i need help on what to . i don;t know how to say anything to her to make her feel at ease also, i;monly 19 so i have no idea how to get social security to help my mom. i;m also the mother of a 2 year old. could someone please give me advice?