I;m 19 and a freshman in college, but I live at home with my mom, brothers who are 22 and 17, and my sister who is 15. The more I;m with them, the more I get incredibly frustrated and just want to leave. It;s mostly my older brother and mom.My mom hasn;t disciplined us since my parents divorce and then my dad;s death 6 years ago. It drives me insane because no one else seems to care except me. She does nothing to take control of this house. My brother dropped out of college 2 years ago to buy 2 cars. He borrowed $3,000 from her for the loan 4 years ago and he;s payed back $500. He doesn;t pay rent even though he;s full time and makes $11 an hour. He;s so disrespectful to her. He does nothing she asks. He mows maybe twice a month. She buys his food and drives him places when he doesn;t feel like using his own gas. He constantly b*tches about his laundry not being done or dinner being cold when he comes home from work. And she just lets him. She just listens to it, maybe yells a little, but 5 minutes later he gets his way and she just lets him. He also tells her what to do. She takes his advice on everything. He told her I;d be a bad driver so she didn;t let me get my license until 1 month before my 19th birthday. She wouldn;t have even let me have it then except I told her I would walk to college before being dropped off and picked up by her everyday.There are so many things my mom does that drive me insane. She;s overprotective as hell. I live in Texas and if you know where Dallas is, I live 45 minutes south of there. I want to drive to Dallas to hang out with my close friends, but my mom won;t let me. She;s afraid to drive there, so she won;t let me. She claims it;s too dangerous, but really, she;s just thinking of herself. If I don;t go, she won;t have to worry about me. It;s not for my own good. It;s for her. It;s also an excuse for me not to see my friends. She doesn;t like them because she;d rather have me staying at home all the time like she is. She;s jealous of them because I tell them more than her and they bring me out of my comfort zone because I;m shy. I used to have a close relationship with her, but I lost a lot of respect for her several years ago when she was being immature and staying out until 2AM with some guy, leaving us at home alone. She apologized for that, but her immature behavior hasn;t stopped. She sends really flirty (sometimes inappropriate) emails back and forth with this married guy she knows. And when we see him where he works they stand there and flirt for 30 minutes. I also have to keep my relationships with guys hush hush because any time I;ve told her about a guy I like she teases me so much it makes me nervous around him and things don;t work out. I want to be able to just hang out with guys without her teasing me. I want to go on a date without her bugging me about it. The only dates I;ve been on have been during the school day for lunch because I cannot have a guy come and pick me up.I;m looking really hard to find a job right now. My mom wouldn;t let me until now. It took a ton of convincing for her to let me. I;ve been paying for my own gas out of my leftover financial aid money in my account so my mom can;t say "I pay for your gas." She keeps telling me that she wants to keep paying for my insurance, gas, tires, and everything. But it;s not to help me. It;s so she can tell me where I can and can;t go.I want to be financially independent so badly. I can;t stand it here anymore. I;m always at home. I can;t hang out with my friends. My mom is always at home because she;s too afraid and nervous to go out and get a job. She does nothing. All she does is shop and go tanning. Not trying to brag, but I;m a really good kid. I;ve never been rebellious. I;ve never had a drink, done drugs, and I;m saving my virginity for marriage. Sometimes she jokes about how I;m a prude, too and I know she;s referring to that. She doesn;t seem proud to have a daughter who;s saving herself, which pisses me off. I;m a good kid. I think I deserve a little freedom. I try so hard to help her. I;ve tried to help her get a job so she has something to do. I encourage her to hang out with her friend. But she just likes staying at home all the time. She even complains about going to dinner with her boyfriend who buys her anything and everything. She;s lazy and she;s selfish about so many things. My sister is seeing it too, before I even told her how I felt about it. I just cannot stand living with my mom and brother. I really want to get this job so I can save up and move out. But I know if I told my mom I want to move out she;d get mad because I;m leaving her. But, talking to her about any of this doesn;t help. She;s too stubbthat;s supposed to say "she;s too stubborn, so it doesn;t help."
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How do you deal with annoying in laws and stress they bring?
I believe I have the worst mother-in-law and sister-in-law. My fiance and I recently got engaged not even a month ago. They have both been a pain in the rear since we;ve started dating and were tolerable at first but now I really just want to tell them off. the only reason I havent yet is because of my fiance. I love him to death but his mother is driving me up a wall and his sister has got to be the laziest and most selfish person I know. Ever since we;ve gotten engaged his mother has been harrassing me about having an engagement party. I really want the party but I see no point if I;m not sure I;m going to stay with him. We haven;t even been able to enjoy being engaged and I know for a fact I;m not happy. So I was going to let her throw the party since she loves throwing parties. But then she said who of my fiance;s friends she was inviting and one of the girls she mentioned i told her can;t be invited because I had to make my fiance get rid of her. She would call him crying at all hours and would be all over him. She was rude the first time she met me and acted like I was invisible. She never tried to be my friend or apologized for being rude. And she take my boyfriend;s phone and hide it so he couldn;t call me when he was with her and would be til 2 am. So when we got engaged she left a comment of his sisters fb saying tell your brother congrats since he doesn;t talk to me anymore. And his mom keeps bugging me about the guests list from my parents. Which to me makes no sense if she;s throwing the party in July or August and my fiance and I don;t even have a date set. So she kept nagging about it, so spoke tom my fiance about it and he spoke to her about it and we decided we wouldn;t have one for awhile, so I told her we didn;t want to have one yet and that it was too soon and she got all bent out of shape and said if we don;t do it in July or August it;s not going to happen because of all the holidays and that if we wait to have one there is no point because the engagement past already. So I said to her just because there are holidays, doesn;t mean you can;t throw a party, so what are you trying to say by that my sister can;t have a party because her b-day is after christmas? And she was like well if it;s not then i;m not throwing it and my fiance told her we;ll throw our own. After that she still didn;t leave it alone, so the monday that just past my fiance and I took a trip to Alantic city and came back thursday and were at his house to go to a card party, not even a minute in the house she asked if we decided on having the party or not i told her yea we could have it and then she said ok well I need your guest list and I told my fiance she;s really got to stop because she don;t even have her list ready yet. So later on that day he and I were talking about his life insurance and being buried and cremated and he said he wanted to buried and i asked why not cremated and she stuck her nose where it didn;t belong like always and started yelling at me saying it isn;t my decision and that she;s getting his life insurance. I let it be and didn;t say anything because if i would;ve I would;ve been kicked out of the house. So the next day we go to his aunt;s house and his sister brought up how she;s 21 and can;t go anywhere or do anything and pays her own bills and car payment, so the momster got all bent out of shape and said oh yea who pays the car insurance, so she goes to my fiance and says yea who pays the insurance and he said he does which is true and the mother goes no you don;t and I lost it I said yea he does he pays it and his bills and when you need money for the rent and bills when you order stuff he gives it to you too and she got mad and i didn;t care at that point. But she tried to put me down and swtich all my words around. This lady is going to be the death of me I swear. My fiance works all week and has off only on friday and I made my schedule the same so we can have our time together but of course that can;t happen because everytime she needs or doesn;t want to do something she calls him 15 times a day asking him for favor and yet the sister is single has no life and sleeps all day and she won;t ask her. And according to his mother we are not allowed to have privacy until we;re married, that came up because every time we try to have our intimate time in his room, or plan a vacation for us she;s always snooping around. This lady even tries to get me to help her get her kids to do things for her because she knows they listen to me and not her. So the other day he left his phone lit up on the table and I looked over and saw that the girl had left him a friend request and that he didn;t have his relationship status posted, infact it was hiden. When I asked him about it he said he didn;t care about her and didn;t kno
In Ohio, what is the average cost of monthly utilities for homeowners? Not including rent.?
So due to my family;s situation (money and personal conflicts) my boyfriend of three years and I have decided to move in together. So here;s the details of the situation: his mother owns a second house. This second house is completely paid off…no mortgage or anything. The house needed some major repairs, which my boyfriend is completing in his spare time after work. His mother has said she will allow us to move into the home, rent free. We simply have to pay utilities. My boyfriend has a full time job, and I am a full time college student with a part time job. I am blessed enough to have college and graduate school tuition completely saved up for. So our income doesn;t go towards tuition, books, meal plan…etc. I guess the bottom line is, what can we expect to pay for gas, insurance, electric, heat, water etc once we are in our own home. Thank you guys!I just don;t know how much these things typically cost. Do I expect electric bills to be $50 or $200 dollars? It;s just the two of us. The house is just a one story with a basement. And we haven;t discussed who will be paying the property taxes and such on the home yet, so I am unsure of those details. The two of us are pretty conservative as far as reducing our carbon foot print. Even currently we are not wasteful
I have 25k to spend on a car. i want a fast car, iv been looking at the 2012 mazda speed3. low insurance?
i need to have no more than 100$ insurance payment per month for the car. im 18 with a clean record
Should free breast implants be made part of Obama Care so people will commit less crimes?
people like Jami Lynn Toler committed crimes to raise money for her breast cancer and needed a double-mastectomy and reconstructive surgery. because she could not afford health insurance she had to lie and steal in order to stay alive from cancer and try and resemble a somewhat normal apperance. http://abclocal.go.com/kabc/story?sectio
